Embracing the Fruit of the Spirit within your marriage “Goodness” Part 6

Embracing the Fruit of the Spirit within your marriage “Goodness”





Did you know that marriage is a sacred, intimate, holy relationship sanctioned by God between a man and a woman? After God created everything and saw that it was good; God saw that the man He had made did not have a helpmeet. The animals, the beasts of the field, the livestock, as well as the birds of the air all had someone to be with… See Genesis 1 for more information.


The first Man & Woman as Husband & Wife

Adam was alone as a man without someone to help him and spend time with on a human level that he could relate to personally.  Actually Adam at this time was still in a perfect, flawless sinless state of being.  Yet, he too needed someone to be by his side. God had compassion upon Adam. This is what He did; “So God caused Adam to fall in a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, He took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib He had taken out of the man, and brought her to the man.” Genesis 1. It is here that we get a comprehensible picture of God’s original design for marriage. God created marriage out of His goodness and everlasting love! 


Adam and Eve were naked and they were not ashamed. Remember their physical bodies were made and shaped by God. He created them to be joined together as one.   Everything that God made was good. At this time they were perfect for one another.  This is of course was before they sinned and decided to instead disobey God and do their own thing. God gives us all free choice! Adam & Eve is the model template for marriage His way.  He is the original Designer and knows what is best for the man and woman He created. God created marriage as a gift to Adam & Eve.  He created them to experience, physical & emotional “oneness” within marriage.  Marriage is serious business. Your marriage will be whatever you together decide to make it!


Coming together as One

The goal of marriage is to experience the ultimate oneness that is possible between a man and a woman!  Marriage is a Covenant relationship. This is not to be taken lightly. Man and woman’s physical structures are anatomically and emotionally designed to fit together as one.  In the eyes of God there is no shame in coming together as husband & wife. Within the context of marriage they are to learn how to meet one another’s need for mutual physical sexual intercourse within the boundaries of marriage. Reproduction and pleasure are possible which usually involves penetration as their sexual organs are joined together. 


Although sex happens quite often outside of marriage it is not sanctioned by God! Or choosing to live together without a marriage commitment as though you are husband & wife; is still not sanctioned by God.  This is why many call this; “Shacking!”  However, it is your choice.  Know; you are actually choosing to live outside of God’s Will…


Adam and Eve were joined together, as husband and wife and they were not ashamed.   They were considered as one*, because they were created as one. God gave them sacred boundaries to live by. They had no limitations on their ability to flourish and grow until they decided to do their own thing. The good thing about marriage; this is where the man and woman can together build physical and emotional intimacy within a lifetime committed relationship. Although today, many marriages in excess of 55% now result in divorce this is not what God intended. “Haven’t you read in the beginning the Creator made them male and female and said; ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife, and the two shall become one flesh? So, they are no longer two, but one* Therefore, what God has joined together, let not man separate.” Matthew 19. Marriage between a man and woman in the eyes of God is good!


Bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh

Take some time and look deeper into the WORD! When the LORD made the Man HE also made the Woman. He actually later took the rib bone  out of the Man He created and formed the Woman. This is why she is called “Bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh…”  It is healthy to desire to want to be close to your spouse. This is why it should be a natural desire to be together as one. Not only physically, but spiritually, emotionally and mentally as well.


This is why we anatomically fit together as one because we were made as one from the very beginning.  Think spiritually if you will. Whenever you come together you can experience natural physical oneness.  This is a closeness like no other. After all you both have committed to one another and to God?   Or did you?  This bonds you together in a circle.  This is why you always want to keep God and His principles within the circle of marriage. 


This is why you want to know and understand that there is something deeper happening here than just a pleasurable moment.  You are in fact giving yourself to one another. You are actually bonding… Be very careful who you allow to become a part of you.  As a woman know that you are allowing the man to make a deposit within you.    WOW!  This is why marriage should not be taken lightly. 


There is power in unity when you allow the LORD HIS PLACE within your marriage, heart and home.


This is also why there is so much spiritual warfare to try and undermine GOD’S DESIGN for Man & Woman. There is power in unity.  Marriage is the 1st and only relationship between one man and one woman designed for “HOLY MATRIMONY,” that is honored by GOD!   It is important to always holdfast to your marital commitment.   The world says do as you please when you please and with whomever you please. God gives us the freedom of choice.  He did not make us robots.  We, however, must take responsibility for the choices we make. Choices come with consequences.  The choices that go against what God has said eventually yields division. 


Everything that GOD made was GOOD.  One must learn to think spiritually rather than carnally when it comes to marriage between a man and a woman.  For it is a “Covenant Relationship” sanctioned by God.   Today nothing is sacred to many. They tend to lean toward being carnally minded when it comes to the spiritual union of marriage.  They are lacking in their spiritual understanding in regards to marriage between a man and a woman. The spiritual warfare is designed to pervert and undermine everything GOOD that comes from the LORD!





This is why it is so important to read & know GOD’S timeless WORD! As you read HIS LIVING WORD ask HIS HOLY SPIRIT to open up your understanding and reveal to you the  TRUTH! HIS WORD is our necessary essential SPIRITUAL FOOD for our mind, body and souls!


Today in this 21st century many marriages are falling short of God’s design, but this still has not changed His original intentions.  They have gotten off track. God designed marriage to be indissoluble! The pressures of society continue to press upon many to once again; “do their own thing!”  Therefore, their vows become easily abdicated.  Please think long and hard before you commit or break your vow of commitment to your marriage.


There is much spiritual warfare to split apart marriages, to sow discord among spouses and families and disrupt God’s design for life and living. Sad but true, some purposefully come into your life to disrupt harmony and bring division within your family.  This is often the case when they have not resolved their own issues. There are deep spiritual consequences that are not always apparent.  There is a way to reconcile marriages that have gone awry (but that is another whole book in itself.)  So please be sure when you decide to say, “I DO!” If not; it is a good thing to remain single. If you are not sure or have serious doubts!   Wait!!! However, it is your choice to have whatever type of relationship(s) you desire… Yet, always remember there are consequences  for those choices as well.


It is important to spend time with God to better understand His plan for your life.


Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, are all wonderful aspects of the Fruit of God’s Spirit! Loyalty, commitment, dedication, monogamy, harmony, trust and integrity are some of the many components of a good healthy “Covenant Marriage” as well. We can experience unity and empowerment within our marriages as we rely on God’s principles for marriage. Marriage is honorable in the eyes of God. When you honor your vows and the marriages of others you honor God!  “Where two or three are gathered together in His Name, He is in the midst…”   Matthew 18 Relying upon our own wisdom and the ways of the world often increases the risk of relinquishing the plan that God has for your lives.


God is faithful! Faithfulness is the next part of the Fruit of God’s Spirit that we will discuss…

See Part 7

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