~ Parental ALIENATION is Real! ~

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

~ Parental Alienation is Real! ~

 

Ladies if you did not have a good relationship with your father, or did not know him, and now you do not have a good relationship with your husband, now your ex-husband, or father(s) of your children; you can “Break the Cycle of Cognitive Distortions!”

Don’t allow the same void to exist within their life. Do not pass down generational trauma. If you are a single mother, please do not hinder or prevent your children from having a good relationship with their father.  If you are a single father the same also applies, please do not hinder or prevent your children from having a good relationship with their mother. You both should want better for your children. You both should have what is best for the children as a top priority.  Remember you both are responsible for them being here. Keep in mind your children are entrusted to you as a parent(s) but they actually belong to God.

GOD IS MORE THAN ABLE!!! With the HELP of the LORD you can break the cycle! God can meet you right where you are and get you where you need to be…

 

Of course, you want to always be concerned about the well-being of your children. Therefore, make it clear to them as well as the father/mother  you want them to develop a safe healthy relationship. You cannot change what has been. If necessary tell them you want to move forward and start anew.

 

There is much spiritual warfare to alter God’s original design for marriage and families… Parental Alienation is real! Allow GOD to bring PEACE, to your heart, home and children!

 

Sad but true there are some instances where places of worship have also been the catalysts for abetting division among families. Not fully knowing what is happening in the relationships assumptions are made. They have on occasion fostered environments that acrimoniously embrace one parent over the other. And often unknowingly actually support divisive parental alienation.

Everyone is not qualified or able to give wise healthy family counsel. Be careful and PRAYERFUL who you allow to speak into your life as well as the life of your children.

 

 

Parental Alienation Defined

“Parental alienation is a theorized process through which a child becomes estranged from one parent as the result of the psychological manipulation of another parent. The child’s estrangement may manifest itself as fear, disrespect or hostility toward the distant parent, and may extend to additional relatives or parties. The child’s estrangement is disproportionate to any acts or conduct attributable to the alienated parent. *Parental alienation can occur in any family unit, but is claimed to occur most often within the context of family separation, particularly when legal proceedings are involved,[6] although the participation of professionals such as lawyers, judges and psychologists may also contribute to conflict.[7]

Proponents of the concept of parental alienation assert that it is primarily motivated by one parent’s desire to exclude the other parent from their child’s life.[8] Some assert that parental alienation should be diagnosable in children as a mental disorder.[9] Some propose that parental alienation be recognized as a form of child abuse or family violence.[2][10] They assert that parental alienation creates stress on the alienated parent and the child,[11][12] and significantly increases the child’s lifetime risk of mental illness.[13][14][15]…( See more on Wikipedia ) *This is true in many counties in some more than others.

It is important to know that children belong to God and are entrusted to their parents! They need good role models. It is becoming more and more difficult to find balanced wise role models in this day and age for children. A good parent knows that their well-being is always a top priority. You should always consult GOD and HIS WORD for direction. God holds all of us accountable for how we raise and influence our children as well as others.

 

~ Parental Alienation is Real! ~

Know this; You cannot take the place of their father. Nor can the father take your place.
GOD IS MORE THAN ALBE TO DIRECT & HELP YOU! Truly having the LORD in your daily life will make all the difference in the world. If this not the caste start now!

 

God from the beginning of time has designed life in such a way that reproduction/procreation of life takes a man and a woman to produce a child. Together strive and thrive to help them become secure and whole in who they are.  They need to be loved, nurtured and given healthy boundaries. They need to know that they have the right to speak up for themselves! They also need to know that God is everywhere and is always with them. Teach them that they can call upon Him at any time & anywhere. Allow GOD to bring PEACE to your heart, home and children!

 

 

A healthy family is important! Dysfunction does not have to be the norm…

 

 

After marriage the family is the greatest institution that God created.  Read carefully throughout Genesis and all throughout GOD’S WORD the high priority He has for healthy spiritual relationships within the family. God is omnipotent, omniscient, and omnipresent, as well as our Creator and Maker. He is the Giver and Sustainer of life.  He always knows what is best for all of us.  But He has given us the freedom to choose His will and way over the ways of the world.  He knows what has been, what is happening now and what will be in the future.  It is wise to humble yourself and commit to submit to Him. Invite Him into your situation and allow Him to direct your path from here… 

 

God can keep you on the Narrow Path that leads to Him. Or if you have strayed, He can get you back wherever you need to be. Salvation is all about getting a grip on sin. Sin is anything that separates us from God. Let NO ONE take the place of GOD within your life. Look to God to help you see clearly wherever you have gone astray.  REPENT!!! WHICH SIMPLY MEANS TO TURN FROM SIN AND TURN BACK TO GOD! He has given us our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ to save us from allowing the power of sin to reign within our daily lives. As well He has given us HIS precious Holy Spirit and Comforter to lead us to all TRUTH! 

 

The well-being of your children should always be a top priority! Give up your insecurity, hurt as well as resentment… ALLOW GOD to bring healing to you, your children, your home and your hearts. GOD is the ULTIMATE FATHER above Him there is NONE OTHER! Truly He can heal, lead, guide, direct, protect and provide a far better life for you and your children.  He will meet you wherever you are and can get you wherever you need to be. Yes, with God, you can become whole!

 

Always keep in mind that God is omniscient, and He knows absolutely everything that has happened will happen and what is going on now.  It is in the best interest of all that are concerned to work towards building a better future for the children. To circumvent less turbulence in their formative teenage years… 

 

Parental Alienation continues to grow all over the world.  It is part of the overall spiritual warfare designed to get your life off track. It persists especially in high conflict relationships and divorces… This world is on a “slippery slope.” It is not going to get better. Today you can find a support group for just about anything, even support for the things that go against the WORD of GOD. PRAY FOR DISCERNMENT! Many of the carnal ways of the world have nested themselves in the amidst of God’s Church. LORD HELP US!!! As believers, “We are to be in the world but NOT of the world!” GOD HAS A BETTER WAY! Do seek HIS WILL and HIS WAY above the ways of this world. Yes, with the HELP of GOD you can “BREAK THE CYCLE!”

LORD HAVE MERCY!!!
STOP the madness!!!

“DRAW NIGH TO GOD AND HE WILL DRAW NIGH TO YOU!”

Getting Your Joy Back Part 4

HALLLELLLUJAH THANK YOU JESUS!!!

You can call upon Jesus 24/7. So if you are going through; You have to learn how to TRUST GOD! Life may try to take everything that you have, but TRUST GOD! It may try to take your health or take the health of your love ones, But TRUST GOD! It  may attempt to divide your home, your marriage and your family and  to uproot your children, But TRUST GOD! The enemy  may even try to take your life, But TRUST GOD! Always remember who you are in the Lord!

 

The prince of the power of  the air can not do anymore than God allows.  Therefore keep your focus upon God. Know this; when you are God’s child know that when its all said and done in the end WE WIN! God did not say it will all be good. He did say “ALL things will work together for the GOOD when you LOVE HIM and are called according to HIS purpose.” So come what may;  PRAISE GOD & SAY HALLLELLLUJAH ANYHOW!

 

Spiritual warfare is all around us

Think about this the enemy wants to steal your JOY! He will use any and everything to attempt to do just that. He wants to pull you down emotionally, physically and to lower your standard of living by tempting you to compromise your principles. Praise be to God, for He has given us His Holy Spirit, His Comforter. Our God given principles are some of your most invaluable possessions. They are bestowed to help discipline and empower you. Through our faith and trust in the Lord we gain access. We never become the power but realize that “Greater is He that is within us than he that is in the world. “

 

While going through you must open your spiritual eyes and ears. Quite often some of those you have helped will often get selective amnesia. I often wondered where were all those people that Jesus helped when they crucified Him. God always knows. There truly is much spiritual warfare about us. Our world and our country is in trouble. But our weapons are not carnal. Stay prepared. Is your armor together? Our true help is only in the Lord.

 

 

The Peace of God can sustain you

Know God intimately! Pray daily for His Precious Holy Spirit to fill you with His presence. Then whatever comes your way as it gets too heavy give it to the Lord. Do all you can do, as you give it to Him and then simply STAND! TRUST GOD! Regardless of what happens the enemy can’t take your JOY unless you let him. He will try so do not give it to him.

Allow the peace of God to sustain you. When you know God intimately His Word becomes woven and deeply embedded into the fabric of who you are. “Your WORD have I hidden in my heart so I may not sin against YOU.” Trust His Holy Spirit who will bring it to your remembrance.

If you have let the shade be pulled down over your life and the enemy has inserted, regrets, depression, anxiety, stress, eating disorders, compulsive behaviors, addictions, manipulation, and anything else in as your daily companions know that they are not of God. Begin to let it or them go! Reach to the Lord. Call upon Him who is always near. When needed or necessary You can also pray with someone who is on one accord. You have the authority within you through Christ Jesus so use it and shift your focus to the Lord. You will be strengthened as you discipline yourself to praise and daily thank God!

 

 

Practice makes Permanent!

God is the Ultimate Father, readily accessible to ALL who call upon Him sincerely and believe and accept His Son Jesus Christ into their heart as their Lord and Savior. Continue or begin implementing His principles within your daily life. Practice makes permanent! His gift to you is His Precious Holy Spirit that nurtures us and is His GIFT that assures us of Eternal life with Him! No one or nobody can change that.

 

God teaches us the importance of faithfulness and loyalty! It is paramount to always take your commitment to the Lord seriously. There is nothing more important in life. “Whatever you do, do it as unto the Lord.”

 

Don’t try to be like someone else. Be the best you, you can be! Everywhere you are God is. So if you have let your JOY go because…. Take it back. “Though you have not seen Him, you LOVE Him; and even though you do not see Him now, you believe in Him and are filled with an inexpressible and glorious JOY, for you are receiving the goal of your FAITH, the SALVATION of your souls.” I PETER

 

 

God is Omnipresent

 

You can always and forever count on God knowing He is everywhere you are. The question is do you invite His presence? Did you know that it really is “in Him we move and live and have our being.” To better understand this it is important to daily  begin building your very own ongoing personal relationship with Him. Just think when something happens; don’t you prefer to talk to someone you know? So don’t just wait until something happens. God is not far away. He in fact is so close that you do not even have to say a Word for Him to hear you. He even knows your every thought! Our little finite minds cannot really conceive of GOD and all His fullness. “Without faith it is impossible to please God.” But through FAITH we can develop an ever growing TRUST in HIM.

See Part 5

Growing and maturing beyond resentment Part 2

Growing and maturing beyond resentment Part 2

Resentment leaves an endless void that one attempts to fill with things that are usually unhealthy for them. You avoid confronting what is bothering you. There is a way out of this.

Marriage is the perfect place to learn properly how to deal with resentment. You two are supposed to be life partners. Like it or not you vowed to help one another become the best that each of you can be? Or were those just words? However each spouse must be willing to take responsibility for their part!

You cannot change what has happened but you can begin to learn how to “let go” of any resentment. Letting go does not mean that you continue to allow the action(s) to occur again. It means that you make a conscious effort to make some behavior changes. Insanity is; “doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.”

In a healthy marriage you take into consideration what impacts you both. You don’t drain one another you seek to refuel, refresh and restore. Oneness makes you sensitive and you work together to have a healthy symbiotic relationship. You speak the Truth in Love. You seek to balance one other. You seek to create a healthy environment where you both can thrive. Where others can experience that balance as well.

Many marriages suffer because resentment is what binds the husband and wife together. Life has become a tally board of how many times they have hurt one another or allowed others to hurt them. Instead of becoming transparent and drawing closer to one another. They all too often run to their friends and seek their support rather than seeking to resolve the problem within their marriage.

There is nothing wrong with talking with your friends, relatives or having a support group. There is nothing wrong with having a therapist, counselor, life coach or any other professional service. Be sure that you are honest if you want favorable results. Just make sure that you do not relay the incident in a way that you are supported when or if you are in the wrong. This will not really help you, your family, friends nor your marriage. This does not mean that the experience was not painful or wrong! You instead seek to become empowered by the incident once you commit to resolve the related unresolved anger. Why? Because you want to be free from it. Or do you really? This means that you will have to allow the pain to dissipate that is associated with what has transpired. But it must first be allowed to come to the Light so you can properly deal with it.

You will have to build a bridge of emotional stability across it to not let it hold you captive any longer. It does not mean that you have to forget. It means that you will have to confront yourself and how you have allowed whatever it is to remain unresolved.

See part 3

Why Marriage God’s Way is Important Part 2

Why Marriage God’s Way is Important

Part 2

 

 

 

The Holy Spirit is the Comforter and Teacher that resides with us as believers to lead and guide us to all Truth! God is utterly amazing. All the Laws given to us by Moses and the prophets pointed us back to the righteousness of God. It is through His Holy Spirit the Lord now writes His Laws within our hearts as we walk in obedience to His Word!

 

 

Jesus tells us: “If you love Me, keep my commandments. And I will pray the Father, and He shall give you another Comforter, that He may abide with you forever. Even the Spirit of Truth, whom the world cannot receive because it seeth Him not, neither knoweth Him; but ye know Him; for He dwelleth with you, and shall be in you. I will not leave you comfortless; I will come to you!” John 14. This is a loaded powerful Scripture that will have a major impact upon your personal life once you sincerely embrace it and allow the Holy Spirit to embed it deeply within your heart!

 

Marriage God’s Way

God’s way for marriage is for a  committed monogamous heterosexual couple consisting of One Man + One Woman! As believers we must continue to present the TRUTH of GOD’S WORD for marriage. This world is on a slippery slope and forever changing.  We GOD’S CHURCH  are called believers because we believe and embrace GOD’S WORD! There is much spiritual warfare to undermine the validity of Marriage His Way! If you don’t agree take it up with God. Personally I believe Abba Father God as our Creator & Maker always knows what is best for us! This is why it is so important to know His Word for yourself!

 

Marriage God’s Way is the ultimate  relationship between One man & One woman where we can learn to become One!  As believers we are to encourage marriage God’s way. GOD DOES NOT CONDONE OR SUPPORT ANY SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE!

 

It is a marvelous, wonderful Blessing when the Lord blesses your union with children.  Therefore you want to impart genuine love to them as you raise them in the fear and admonition of the Lord.  Your love will  then continue to live on beyond your lives. As you raise them up keep in mind they become a continual generational legacy. 

 

Life and Living really is all about allowing GOD to be the Center of life.

 

Holy Matrimony

It is in His Word we are better able to understand why at times we as committed believers will not be understood. For many embracing God’s principles for life and living has become optional. The world is ever moving away from godly principles. Whatever is right in the eyes of man/woman is accepted.  This is not a popularity contest. No; GOD does NOT want us to live unhappy and legalistically.  Therefore, He has given us His Precious Holy Spirit, His Comforter  to lead, guide, direct, help and protect us.  As believers we should readily live out daily  the Truth of God’s Word within the confines of our marriage.

 

“Holy Matrimony”  once was considered  by all as a sacred union designed by God, now it is gradually becoming a fleeting standard to many.   The lines have been blurred. But know this God has not changed. Only marriage between one man and one woman is honorable in His sight!

 

The vows we make should not be just mere words. 

 

In the Word we  can also better understand why the world at large does not readily accept His Word. This is nothing new. Keep in mind Marriage between one man and one woman remains ordained by God. 

 

Know this; You cannot enter into the Kingdom of God living contrary to His Word!  Holy Father, Your Kingdom come, Your Will be done on earth as it is in Heaven.” Lord Thank You for Your Living Word Crist Jesus!

 

Oldest Institution

Marriage is the first institution that God designed. This is also another reason why there is so much spiritual warfare to try and change it.  You can opt to do your own thing. But this does not nullify what He has said. You really can’t change His original design as far as GOD is concerned.  There is a plethora of spiritual wisdom in His Word to enrich our lives in every way. When a husband and wife are on one accord there is spiritual power in the unity of their marriage. God is Love. His Love, yields, Trust, Transparency, Strength, Loyalty, Kindness,  and Faithfulness to Him and to  one another.

 

The world does not believe that God’s design for marriage is the only way. We have been given the freedom to  choose.  It is important to know that there are consequences for our choices.  Just look around you. No wonder so many are confused. This is why it is so very important that we study and know His Word for ourselves. When we grow in His Grace, Knowledge and Wisdom His Love continues to grow within us. More of the Fruit of His Spirit manifests and multiples within us as well.  We can trust God in any and every situation.

 

Pray for spiritual discernment! 

God’s Holy Spirit residing within is readily available to help us as we submit to His Will His Way! “But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, He shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said to you. Peace I leave with you, My peace I give unto you; not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid…”John 14.

 

See Part 3

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