Embracing the Fruit of the Spirit within you marriage “Faithfulness” Part 7

Embracing the Fruit of the Spirit within your marriage “Faithfulness”

Couple in Grass

Part 7

Faithfulness

Faithfulness is a very important aspect of building a strong healthy marriage!

Marriage really is about teamwork! Is your marriage really what you expected? Or did you expect things to just happen? Your marriage will not bloom and flourish unless you both put forth an effort. The two of you need to make a conscious genuine attempt to honor your marriage vows. Your health, mental state, physical stamina and well being are greatly impacted by the manner in which you relate in your marriage! Together you have the ability to create a healthy, invigorating, enjoyable, relaxing and harmonious home environment.

Marriage is the ultimate partnership relationship between a man and a woman! A good marriage embraces loyalty and faithfulness! Faithfulness is an expression of love!

Growing together in  your marriage

It is important to learn to become transparent with your spouse. Marriage is about continuously growing and encouraging one another to become the best person that they can be… This way everyone benefits.

Make it a point to become increasingly aware of one another’s temperaments! Temperament is how we react or respond to people, places and things in any given situation. Temperament is our God given  innate inherent characteristics that make us unique. No two persons are really the same.  God made each of us as originals. But two people can learn to live together in harmony as we respect one another. This is how your love grows!

Embrace allowing the “Fruit of the Spirit” to flourish within each of you as well as within your marriage. Chastise one another yes, but speak the truth in love! Timing is key. There are times you must say to your spouse what no one else will say. This is to help one another to grow and improve. Rather than focusing on one another’s shortcomings,  frequently look for times to build one another up and encourage one another when the opportunity arises. This also builds transparency and intimacy.

 

Building Intimacy Together

Physical and emotional intimacy is important in marriage. This too will enhance your moments of close physical intimacy. A good strong marriage makes you both better and stronger individuals who have one another’s best interest at heart. This is true wherever you, whether if you are apart or together.  You are secure knowing that you always have one another’s  heart between you.  Learn to lay aside improper or dysfunctional ways that will only hinder your spiritual growth as well as your marriage.

 

Always remember; You honor God when you honor your marriage!

 

Lovingly, and faithfully work together to make sure that one another’s sexual needs and desires are realized and fulfilled within your marriage. Your physical intimacy becomes yet another committed expression of the depth of your love for one another. Together you can work through any issues that hinder you from freely expressing yourselves to one another…

 

Coming together  as one is natural. There is no need for shame when expressing what God made to be a beautiful time of coming together! Physically, emotionally and intimately the “two become one flesh” Within marriage the “marriage bed” is honorable in the sight of God. “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed should always be kept pure.” Hebrews 13. You both commit to honor not only your marriage but the marriages of others.

 

There is security in faithfulness

Faithfulness is part of the Fruit of the Spirit! When you are faithful it yields oodles of security! You both know no matter what; that you can trust one another and that you are there for one another. Even when you disagree you have inner peace about your marriage because there is a deep well of trust built into the foundation of your relationship. You can even disagree respectfully.  Your marriage is a high priority!

 

Life is complex and at times very difficult… Everyone has a bad day… So you do not readily personalize your spouse’s every word or frustration. You allow one another to vent when needed… You respect one another and become sensitive to their needs. Do not allow pride to take the reign of your marriage, be humble, caring, discerning and loving. This takes inner strength and patience… Faithfulness allows you to give one another the room to grow and give each other some space whenever necessary.

 

Marriage is sacred in the eyes of God! Spend some time daily in His Word. Embrace and implement His principles for life and living within your marriage. He is the original Designer of marriage. God’s way really does works when we adhere to His principles. Building a strong loving marriage involves commitment and gentleness. You can still be strong but and be gentle. Gentleness is another part of the Fruit of the Spirit we will discuss next in this series. I hope that this has been helpful and you are encouraged to take responsibility for your part in making your marriage successful!

 

When you honor your marriage vows you honor God!

 

“But the Fruit of the Spirit is Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness…” Galatians 5.  These become by products of an ever increasing  relationship with the Lord.    Embracing God’s Word and His principles grows us in His Grace. 

 

Marriage God’s way comes with marvelous benefits.  Marriage  is a commitment to work together  for a common goal.  You can be united as One!  Therefore,  you should marry because we want to grow in love together for a lifetime.   As you honor God within your marriage He will bless you by multiplying and manifesting  the Fruit of His Spirit  within both of you Faithfulness is a part of His Fruit.

 

Benefits of Faithfulness

Faithfulness genuinely  says that I take my vows to you and to God seriously. That I love you and I am here for you no matter what and together  we can make it through anything!  Transparency and intimacy is encouraged. You  not only remain  faithful to one another but you are  also faithful to God as well!   Yes things will happen… However, you can always invite God into the “messiness” of your life because you know that God is forever  faithful!   God is more than able! He has given us His Comforter to Help us! 

 

While in this world we are living within a spiritual warzone. Therefore you can expect some of everything…   However, the battle is not ours.  We are to remain alert and  daily adorned within the spiritual armor. Regardless of what the world is doing;  We know that His precious  Holy Spirit can help us 24/7.  Thank God for Christ Jesus! There are many benefits in learning how to embrace and implement  the Fruit of God’s Spirit within  your marriage. So now let’s move towards learning how to embrace gentleness…

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Embracing the Fruit of the Spirit within your marriage “Goodness” Part 6

Embracing the Fruit of the Spirit within your marriage “Goodness”

 

 

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Did you know that marriage is a sacred, intimate, holy relationship sanctioned by God between a man and a woman? After God created everything and saw that it was good; God saw that the man He had made did not have a helpmeet. The animals, the beasts of the field, the livestock, as well as the birds of the air all had someone to be with… See Genesis 1 for more information.

 

The first Man & Woman as Husband & Wife

Adam was alone as a man without someone to help him and spend time with on a human level that he could relate to personally.  Actually Adam at this time was still in a perfect, flawless sinless state of being.  Yet, he too needed someone to be by his side. God had compassion upon Adam. This is what He did; “So God caused Adam to fall in a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, He took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib He had taken out of the man, and brought her to the man.” Genesis 1. It is here that we get a comprehensible picture of God’s original design for marriage. Out of His goodness and everlasting love! 

 

Adam and Eve were naked and they were not ashamed. At this time they were perfect for one another.  This is of course  was before they sinned and decided to instead disobey  God and do their own thing. God gives us all free choice! Adam & Eve is the model template for marriage His way.  He is the original Designer and knows what is best for the man and woman He created. God created marriage as a gift to Adam & Eve.  Marriage is serious business. Your marriage will be whatever you together decide to make it!

 

Coming together as One

The goal of marriage is to experience the ultimate oneness that is possible between a man and a woman!  Marriage is a Covenant relationship. This is not to be taken lightly. Man and woman’s physical structures are anatomically and emotionally designed to fit together as one. Within the context of marriage they are to learn how to meet one another’s need for  mutual physical sexual intercourse within the boundaries of marriage. Reproduction and pleasure are possible which usually involves penetration as their sexual organs are joined together.

 

Although sex happens quite often outside of marriage it is not sanctioned by God! Or choosing to live together as though husband & wife;  is still not sanctioned by God.  This is why many call this; “Shacking!” However, it is your choice.  Know; you are  actually choosing to live outside of His Will…

 

Adam and Eve were joined together and they were not ashamed. They had no limitations on their ability to flourish and grow until they decided to do their own thing. The good thing about marriage; this is where the man and woman can together build physical and emotional intimacy within a lifetime committed relationship. Although today, many marriages in excess of 55% now result in divorce this is not what God intended. “Haven’t you read in the beginning the Creator made them male and female and said; ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife, and the two shall become one flesh? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” Matthew 19. Marriage between a man and woman in the eyes of God is good!

 

Bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh

Take some time and look deeper into the WORD! When the LORD made the Man HE also made the Woman. He actually later took the rib bone  out of the Man He created and formed the Woman. This is why she is called “Bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh…”  It is healthy to desire to want to be close to your spouse. This is why it should be a natural desire to be together as one. Not only physically, but spiritually, emotionally and mentally as well.

 

This is why we anatomically fit together as one because we were made as one from the  very beginning. When  you come together you  can experience natural physical oneness.  After all  you  both have committed to one another and to God?    Or did you?  This bonds you together in a circle.  This is why you  always want to keep God and His principles within the circle. 

 

This is why you want to know and understand  that there is something  deeper happening  here than just a pleasurable moment.  You are  in fact giving yourself to one another. Be very careful who you allow to become a part of you.  As a woman know that you are allowing the man to make a deposit within you.    WOW!  This is why marriage should not be taken lightly. 

 

There is power in unity when you allow the LORD HIS PLACE within your marriage, heart and home.

 

This is also why there is so much spiritual warfare to try and undermine GOD’S DESIGN for Man & Woman. There is power in unity.  Marriage is the 1st and only relationship design for “HOLY MATRIMONY” that is honored by GOD!   It is important to always  holdfast to your marital commitment.   The world says do as you please when you please and with whomever you please. God gives us the freedom of choice.  He did not make us robots.  We however, must take responsibility for the choices we make. Choices come with consequences.  The choices that go against what God has said eventually yields division. 

 

Everything that GOD made was GOOD.  The spiritual warfare is designed to pervert and undermine  everything GOOD that comes from the LORD!

 

 

THE LORD IS AWESOME; “HE IS ABSOLUTELY AWEWONDERUL!

 

This is why it is so important to read & know GOD’S timeless WORD! As you read HIS LIVING WORD ask HIS HOLY SPIRIT to open up your understanding and reveal to you the  TRUTH! HIS WORD is necessary essential  SPIRITUAL FOOD for our souls!

 

Today in this 21st century many marriages are falling short of God’s design, but this has not changed His original intentions. God designed marriage to be indissoluble! The pressures of society continue to press upon many to once again; “do their own thing!” Please think long and hard before you commit or break your vow of  commitment to your marriage.

 

There is much spiritual warfare to split apart marriages, to sow discord among spouses and families and disrupt God’s design for life and living. Sad but true, some come into your life to disrupt harmony and bring division within your family.  This is often  the case when they have not resolved their own issues. There are spiritual consequences that are not always apparent… So please be sure when you decide to say “I DO!” If not; it is a good thing to remain single. If you are not sure or have serious doubts!   Wait!!! However it is your choice to have whatever type of relationship(s) you desire… Yet, always remember there are consequences  for those choices.

 

It is important to spend time with God to better understand His plan for your life.

 

Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, are all wonderful aspects of the Fruit of God’s Spirit! Loyalty, commitment, dedication, monogamy, trust  and integrity are some of the many components of a good marriage as well. We can experience unity and empowerment within our marriages as we rely on God’s principles for marriage. Marriage is honorable in the eyes of God. When you honor your vows you honor God!  “Where two or three are gathered together in His Name, He is in the midst…”   Matthew 18 Relying upon our own wisdom and the ways of the world often increases the risk of relinquishing the plan that God has for your lives.

 

God is faithful! Faithfulness is the next part of the Fruit of God’s Spirit that we will discuss…

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Embracing the Fruit of the Spirit within your marriage “Kindness” Part 5

Embracing the Fruit of the Spirit within your marriage “Kindness”

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Part 5

Kindness is a virtue. Mutual kindness needs to be embedded throughout your marriage. Marriage is the first institution between a man and a woman that was created by God. Marriage is designed to be a mutually loving, satisfying partnership experience.  As husband and wife you both have made sacred vows to honor one another as well as God! A part of honoring those vows means to be considerate of one another and sincerely extending kindness to one another. Kindness is a part of the Fruit of the Spirit! It is very important to continue to nurture your marriage when you truly desire to build a healthy lasting and rewarding marital relationship.

 

Strive to be kind to one another 

What is kindness really? Kindness defined according to the Encarta Dictionary is; “A compassionate act; an act that shows consideration and caring.” This is why kindness is so important within marriage.

 

All too often more consideration and thought are often placed into the planning of the wedding or ceremony than the actual marriage itself. If you have allowed your relationship to go stale and the two of you are drifting apart you can do something about it. This is true regardless at whatever your age is, as well as however long you two have been married. As long as there is breath in your body there is room for improvement.

 

The quality of your marriage can or should improve like a fine antique.  But you both must make it a priority to value and take care of your marriage. Tend it like  a nice garden. Think about it! What was your purpose for marrying anyway? Was it to make one another miserable? During your dating or courtship there must have been some tender moments that drew you together? Or did you do so out of sheer obligation? Or in some cases perhaps you had an arranged marriage and you are expecting love to follow… Whatever the case there is always room for improvement!

 

Kindness should be an integral part of your marriage. Being kind brings warmth and yields sparks of compassion and understanding. It holds selfishness at bay when you consider how your spouse is feeling. You care enough to speak the truth in love and want what is best for one another. Kindness brings trust and freedom! Knowing that your spouse is committed to you and the marriage yields security!

 

Life brings experience

Life is serious and we are living in some interesting times. Life is full of many mountaintop and valley experience. Even when things are not going well when you embrace kindness it allows you to be at peace with one another. Disagreements are normal. But they do not have to be resolved by resorting to name calling, hurling hurtful word for words and physical or mental abuse. “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, those who love it will eat its fruits!” Proverbs 18.

 

A good healthy argument is great and allows you both times to vent! But please don’t fuss and fight like children all the time. If or when one or both of you are angry, table the discussion for a reasonable period of time later on until you can discuss things rationally. Yes! Keep the child in you alive but do not allow it to take control. The child in you loves to have fun it also likes to have its way.

 

The growing adult in you must be willing to take responsibility whenever necessary. Kindness and consideration prevents dysfunction from nesting itself within the marriage. Dealing with the issues at hand and the desire to keep moving forward will help you build a strong secure fulfilling ever growing marriage!

 

Women & men were created  to be loved

Gentlemen it is important to know that a woman was made to be loved! Taking the time to listen and be sensitive, supportive and caring to her needs speaks volumes. Your genuine love will help her to become all that she can be. Ladies a man desires to be loved, respected and trusted! Listen twice as much (since in general we tend to talk more) attentively and don’t be so eager to talk before he is finished expressing himself. Be sensitive, supporting, and caring of his needs as well. This in turn helps him to become all that he can become. Good open healthy communication makes a great marriage!

So embrace your vows and always freely express love, joy, peace, patience and yes; kindness! Desire  and aspire to enjoy your journey together! After all marriage is really where; “the two become one flesh…”

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