Is A Great Marriage Still Viable?
The answer is YES!!!
Today some have opted out of the marriage. Their spouse has not been faithful and or has not or will not repent. Divorce is also sought because both or one spouse was not honest when they married. It is not their intention to work together for a mutually satisfying marriage. Sad put true some marry to get what they can and leave. Quite often they want what they want when they want it. Their first priority is what they want rather than what is best for the marriage. This can leave the injured spouse in a state of flux. He or she will often overcompensate by continually giving into to their endless wants even to the point of financial despair.
Parental disharmony also causes additional conflict within the children. They pick up the vibe between their parents. The children wants become excessive to compensate for their void. Unconsciously they feel that their well being is a secondary priority. Children usually prefer that their parents stay together.They too begin to act out. The parent who is most concerned must or should then take responsibility and address the needs of the children. Since you are hurting, this is not easy but necessary. It important to instill within your children healthy boundaries.
As they get older the children will begin to better understand. Their parents were not able to resolve their conflict which resulted in divorce. Right now in this 21st century we have a generation of children that are confused about “Marriage God’s Way” more so than ever before! Although it did not work for you the first time; it is important to let them know that God has ordained marriage as the proper relationship for sex. let them know there is hope for them.
Our current and future generations of teenagers have fewer and fewer positive moral traditional role models. Too many fractured marriages and families. This also can cause some of them to question their own sexuality. They wonder if marriage is still even viable? They are all to often seduced to seek alternative ways to satisfy their sometimes overwhelming desire to appease raging hormones… They are often pulled into experimenting with same sex relationships with their peers. This can cause them to be confused sexually or possibly even become bi sexual or promiscuous?
Freely share with them what God says about sex in a non threatening way. Keeping in mind you are not trying to incite rebellion. You want them to learn self-control. You want them to realize that their are consequences for our actions.God allows us the freedom to choose. Love is patient so if you are over anxious take some time and chill out.
We can prevent this from happening or lessen the frequency of this occurring by teaching them the importance of respecting their own bodies. Letting them know that they are valuable and they have the right to say “NO!” to anyone. But most important that they can honor God in their body and its never too late to start!
Yes! A favorable future marriage is still viable…
There is much spiritual warfare that attempts to draw our teens away from God’s natural design for sex. This is a vulnerable stage of life for them! Peer pressure is already a constant factor in their lives… How their bodies are beginning to develop is a concern as well. Many of them will not say how they really feel. They will tell you what they think you want to hear! They often will seek unwise advice. Therefore they can be easily led down an ambivalent primrose path that further adds to this already complicated period of growth and development! Instead abstinence and discipline should be encouraged!
Think about this for a moment. Did you know that if no one practiced sex outside of marriage there would be no one to cheat with? Fewer broken homes! Fewer STD’S! Fewer Abortions! Fewer marriages ending in divorces where people are unable to reconcile their differences! It’s hard to imagine! God has given us His Word to protect us! He has even told us that there is “no temptation common to man that He has not prepared a way of escape.”
A committed married monogamous relationship is the only way that God honors a sexual relationship! He has provided and ordained marriage. You see God has designed marriage as the only proper way a man and woman can fulfill their natural sexual desires. He is not the designer of any other method. If you have been taught or thought otherwise you are fooled. I don’t care what Mommy, Daddy, Grandpa, Grandma, Aunt, Uncle, Friend, Doctor, Minister, Pastor. Bishop, Apostle or Foe has said there are consequences! You see it is time out for living in the dark. Especially if you have confessed to be a Christian! It is time to stand up and speak out for what God has said is right.
We must speak the TRUTH in LOVE! Many are so confused about what LOVE really means. They often misunderstand you when you try to LOVE them for real! Loving someone is NOT making them feel comfortable in sin. Part of LOVE is correction with patience. Sometimes we have to simply “step back.” But always PRAY! This is why we ALL so need the LORD! “GOD IS LOVE!” God is always available to help us properly express HIS LOVE!
Let’s HELP this next generation; these teenagers of this 21st century “where anything goes.” Start by giving them better moral role models! Let’s open up the lines of communication so they can validate their feelings. Make yourself available to them. Give them a phone and tell them “to call you anytime they NEED you” Let’s HELP them so they do not feel that they have to give parts of themselves away in order to be accepted! Let them know that they have the right to say NO to anyone who tries to take advantage of them. Give them more “hugs” & quick kisses on their foreheads. (some of them feel too big for kisses)
Teach them how to be respectable and to demand respect as well. Remember they watch what we say and do. Better examples and less criticism and more compassion and understanding. Less bickering and fighting and more constructive ways to resolve conflict such as Powerful, loving biblical instructions! Just think if it is hard for adults it is even harder for teenagers…
How Compatible are We? Ready for Intimacy? Commitment? The Marriage Bed? In-laws or Out-laws?
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Embracing the Fruit of the Spirit within your marriage “Joy”
Joy can be exhilarating and refreshing! Wow! You feel as though you are literally bursting at the seams as though you are elevated to a level of almost inexpressible happiness! Joy at times just brings a quiet warm feeling of inner contentment. Joy is a fruit of God’s Spirit!
God wants you to delight yourself within Him your marriage and life itself. He wants us to have joy! This does not mean that you won’t go through some things, you will. Be open and honest with one another and continuously make your marriage a priority. Joy will help you weather the tempestuous storms of life as they arise. It is from your happier moments you can draw from, when turbulence of any kind hits your marriage.
Marriage is about having a committed relationship! Fidelity is important! Building strong healthy marital boundaries is also important! It is within marriage you can become closer as you build an intimate, trusting and transparent union. It is within a loving marriage you both can freely learn to seek pleasure in one another without shame or embarrassment! The Word of God teaches us that; “The Joy of the Lord is your strength!” Nehemiah 8.
Within marriage you can learn to freely give of yourselves to one another! Affection in marriage is important! Every physical encounter does not necessarily have to lead to sexual intercourse. Snuggling can be most comforting. Resting in the arms of one another can be a welcomed safe haven to look forward to.
You can learn to rise together to challenges, realizing that they are but for a season and do not define your marriage! Endeavor together to not allow discouragement take up residence although disappointed! Nip things in the bud whenever possible…
The Lord is the true vine and we are the branches! When we remain connected to Him the fruit of His Spirit will continue to flourish within us! God did not design marriage to leave us on our own to be without His assistance. God wants you to have a husband or wife that is willing to commit for life to building a strong healthy loving marriage. He said that “it was not good for man to be alone. I will make him a suitable helper.” Genesis 1.
Bone of my bone!
How you together express yourselves physically is between the two of you! There should be mutual respect and consideration for one another. Together you can learn how to pleasure and romance one another. When you both are fulfilled physically there is no need to look elsewhere. This will help you fireproof your marriage from the perils of infidelity! The Word teaches us that, “You have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride, you have stolen my heart with on glance of your eyes, with on jewel of your necklace. How delightful is your love, my sister my bride! How much more pleasing is your love than wine and the fragrance of your perfume than any spice! Your lips drop sweetness as the honeycomb, my bride; milk and honey are under your tongue…” Song of Songs 4. Song of Songs contains a marvelous wealth of passionate poetic scriptures that can enrich and enhance your marriage and love life!
Whoever you join yourself to becomes part of you! As your hearts continue to knit together you both can learn to freely share the essence of who you are intimately, spiritually, emotionally and physically. Marriage is about two becoming; “bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.” Genesis 1. You are the most invaluable gift that you have to give to your spouse! Oneness within marriage brings supreme joy!
Having a date night is important! Refresh your marriage and keeping the embers of love burning. This keeps your marriage interesting and your joy flowing! A committed monogamous marriage creates an environment where you both can safely get your needs met! Devotion and commitment are key ingredients in any marriage! Make it a goal to live a life of quality! When we love with godly love, we can also experience His lasting love, joy & peace!
How Compatible are We? Ready for Intimacy? Commitment? The Marriage Bed? In-laws or Out-laws?
How Do I Love Thee:Food For Thought Before You Say “I DO” is a mini-premarital guide to be used by couples, counselors, and clergy. It addresses many of the major subjects couples should discuss prior to marriage.Included are interactive lessons and assignments for the couple which are designed to motivate serious thought about love, compatibility, commitment, finances, accountability, responsibility, dealing with the in-laws, the marriage bed, and more.
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