Growing and maturing beyond resentment Part 1

 

Growing and maturing beyond resentment Part 1

 

Resentment can kill or deteriorate any marriage, home, family, congregation, or relationship if it is not properly dealt with. It is like leaven. It spoils… Resentment means you feel over and over the pain or distaste associated with an act or deed that has been made against you.

 

Don’t let others continue to disrespect you or undermine who you are becoming in the Lord. Especially when they have showed you over and over who they are. I say “becoming” because we never arrive; there is always room for improvement as long as the Lord has us on this side of Heaven. Pray for discernment. We actually do arrive; when we reach Heaven!

 

Counseling entails objective listening. Be a good listener whenever people are talking or speaking. No matter how young or old they may be. When they say something that you know is not true it will give you a clearer picture of who they are and how they feel about themselves as well as what influences them. There is a difference between gossip and having a desire to resolve conflict and set people free. Or if you simply want to control them. Some have an addiction to control. If they cannot control You they will manipulate and try to control the people around you.

PRAY FOR DISCERNMENT!

If you want increased discernment you must truly seek the will of the Lord. Discernment does not allow You to see what you want to see. It causes you to seek the Truth of what is really going on. You readily release what is not so because it clouds your ability to discern. Discernment goes beyond the surface of how things appear. Remember The Holy Spirit; His Comforter wants to lead us to all Truth!

Know the difference between the works of the flesh and the FRUIT of the SPIRIT!

Avoiding conflict or not confronting how you feel and just stowing it away causes resentment to grow and fester. It is healthier to validate your feelings. Then put them in the proper perspective. You can not change anything that has happened. But you can get release from what has been. Resentment hurts you more than it hurts the person you are resenting! “Iron sharpens iron”

Many mistake acceptance for Love. They will do whatever; to be accepted. But are not at peace when they are alone. This also deepens their depression. Some are so use to abuse that they cannot recognize genuine concern or proper correction that comes from love. Oh how we need to allow GOD HIS rightful place in all areas of life. God has a much better way. Live before an “AUDIENCE of ONE!”

To help others become free from resentment share and feed them the “WORD of GOD” not gossip. Encourage and model the principles of God’s Word yourself! This is how you break the cycle of dysfunction. “GOD IS LOVE” HIS WORD is necessary SPIRITUAL FOOD for our souls. GOD is the SPIRIT of TRUTH! HIS WORD IS what quickens (makes alive) the soul! Always remember; “THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE” ~

Merriam Webster Dictionary defines resentment as such: “a feeling of indignant displeasure or persistent ill will at something regarded as a wrong, insult, or injury.” You can feel resentment towards a spouse, parent, child, relative, friend, neighbor, boss, coworker, person of the clergy, abuser or even a stranger. Life is precious. It is far better to readily discuss the matter at hand candidly and respectfully.

Many wait too long and allow the clarity of the facts to diminish. Often the truth is totally distorted and misconstrued. When questioned they will usually go in the direction that is desired. Just know if you do not address the associated issue, resentment will keep you fixated upon a momentary encounter for years. It will rob you from moving forward. A lot of the time the person has no clue that they are “stuck” in an abyss of not liking what was said, done or transferred upon their soul. Know you always have an option to speak Up!

GOD IS OMNIPOTENT!

You really can become whole! You can genuinely smile and mean it. You really can; Let the “JOY of the LORD be your strength” Some people do not have healthy boundaries. They will say and do just about anything. Mean what you say and say what you mean. Discipline yourself to speak when you are in control of your responses. Know when to speak and when to say nothing. God will impart HIS inner PEACE to you as you begin to exercise more self control. Truly having the Lord within our lives really does make a difference. THANK GOD FOR our LORD and SAVIOR JESUS & HIS HOLY SPIRIT!

Always seek to build your character in the eyes of GOD. It is HIS opinion of you that matters most. As you grow in the Lord; Fear no one and walk in meekness. You do not want to compromise your Peace with the Lord! GOD’S PEACE surpasses the understanding of man. So know that many will misunderstand you. Learn to take refuge and rest in the Lord. HIS HOLY SPIRIT is the COMFORTER! Above the LORD is no other. KNOW without doubt that GOD IS OMNIPRESENT!

Do not let resentment become the theme of your life, marriage or relationship! Life is too precious to spend most of it in regrets. Letting go of resentment does not mean that you forget what has happened. Many are quick to say “forgive & forget.” Forgiving does not mean that you should forget. Some things you do not want to forget you want to remember in order to prevent them from happening again. Neither do you have be afraid or paranoid.

Become alert! This can serve to Help you to know when to; “guard your heart!” Don’t let recycled junk become your current habitat. Readily recognize when someone is trying to take you down a path that you don’t have to go down. You do however want to work through any hurt or pain. You do not have to be a life long victim. Release any associated hurt or pain; this way it therefore no longer holds you captive. Today many seek to relive over and over their issues and often seek out others to further enable them. What bands them together is there shared experience. You will hear them over and over talk about their past and then say; you need to forget about what happened? Go figure. They don’t realize that they are actually sending a binary messages. (Yet, they are telling you to forget the past and are constantly bring up their past?) So no don’t forget. You really should want to file it away in a healthy manner so that it no longer becomes a trigger for anger or fear; nor does it have to continue to negatively impact your life.

No! You do not have to seek revenge. Give them and the situation to God. I was taught by a wise Mentor and Mother. God can do a lot more with people than you can. There are many diverse doctrinal beliefs. Some hinder the flow of the SPIRIT… Don’t reinforce dysfunction. GOD is NOT the “Author of Confusion.” Some do not really seek understanding. They rather stay “Stuck.” It is good to spend time alone with the Lord as well as with someone you can “Touch and agree!” Learning how to “BE STILL & KNOW” is precious. You learn how to better respond rather than react.

Self Control is part of the Fruit of God’s Spirit. You really can have genuine inner Peace. I will not compromise my Peace with the Lord in order to be accepted. You do NOT have to force your way. Don’t get pulled into messiness. Pray for increased Discernment. Have Faith in God!

God really can heal you. But you must want to really want to be healed. Believe! It will take some effort on you part… Healing is welcomed because you really do want to become whole!

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Contending For The Faith Part 1

Salvation

Know God’s Word

If you ever want a powerful defense for the Christian Faith Jude is an excellent book to refer to. Defending the Faith is not something new. Jude teaches the importance of not compromising the Word of God. The Word of God is priceless! You cannot manipulate God nor His Word no matter who you are.

 

There are a lot of worldly influences that from the very beginning have tried to twist the Bible and its teachings. Many have been deceived, this is still the case today. Many worldly ways, concepts and methods have been embraced and embedded into the organized church system that are not of God. This is why it is important to know God and know His Word; of Him you can be certain and sure!!!

 

Jude is an actual  flesh born  brother of Christ Jesus and James who wrote the Book of James. He writes to us from the perspective of  deep faith.  He not only walked with Jesus but lived with Him as a biological brother born of the same mother, who loved Jesus.  He knows the importance of having an up close personal relationship  with the Lord. It is here that our peace can be multiplied.

 

Contend for the Faith

Jude tells us to “Contend for the Faith!” What does this mean? Contend means to strive against difficulties, to be persistent and assert yourself. Faith means believe without seeing. “FAITH is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. This is what the ancients were commended for.  By Faith we understand that the universe was formed at GOD’S command so that what is seen was not made out of what was visible…” Hebrews 11 The Bible gives us the real facts! It is  not comprised of misconstrued circumstantial evidence. It is the INSPIRED WORD OF GOD!

 

Many today attempt to use the Word to control others, justify their behavior and lifestyles but are really only promoting sin. We are to encourage others to follow: “Christ Jesus!”  God always knows our hearts intentions.  We ALL are to; ” SEEK YE FIRST THE KINGDOM OF GOD AND HIS RIGTEOUSNESS…” Matthew 6 Always be aware. GOD IS OMNISCIENT. 

 

Many mistake “Meekness” for weakness or fear.  Meekness is Power under the control of God.  We never become the power but we access it through the Lord… Never compromise your relationship with God to be accepted by others. Know who you are in the Lord!

 

GOD IS POWERFUL as a matter of fact He is OMNIPOTENT meaning He is ALL POWER! He is SUPERIOR and SUPREME! Think about it with all the millions of organized church assemblies opened in the name of God, what is going on in this world should not be!   Some assemblies  are full of missionaries,  ministers and priests… BE SURE AND VERY SURE THAT YOU ARE BEING LED BY GOD’S HOLY SPIRIT an not by man or woman…

 

GOD SAYS THE LAND can be healed!  THIS IS WHAT HE SAYS TO HIS CHURCH!  “IF MY people who are called by MY NAME shall humble themselves and pray and seek MY FACE, and turn from their wicked ways; then I WILL HEAR FROM HEAVEN, and forgive their sin, and will heal their land…”  II Chronicles 7.  

 

Some of you  are forever calling out the devil and telling him to go to; “the pit of hell?”  Know this; he is the prince of the power of the air so you won’t be sending him back to “the pit”  BUT GOD WILL MOST DEFINITELY DO SO IN HIS TIME…  By the way the devil is  NOT OMNIPRESENT! NOR anywhere close to being as powerful  AS GOD ALMIGHTY!!!  So yes, when led by the SPIRIT of GOD say;  “LORD REBUKE YOU IN JESUS NAME as Michael the Archangel did when, “contending for Moses body…”  in JUDE! As a matter of fact; THE WORD SAYS;  “SUBMIT YOURSELF THEREFORE TO GOD. RESIST the devil, and he WILL FLEE!  “DRAW NIGH TO GOD AND HE WILL DRAW NIGH TO YOU…” JAMES 4  

 

 

What we see happening all around us is  certainly  NOT because of GOD.  All  these terrible things persist because of sin.  Sin is anything that separates us from God.  God never makes anyone feel comfortable in sin.  YES DO CONTEND FOR THE FAITH! For what we are seeing is because sin is being embraced all around us… This is  happening also  because there are also many wolves in sheep clothing.  PRAY FOR DISCERNHMENT! Jude says; “They are godless men (women)  who change the grace of God into a license for immorality and deny Jesus Christ our only Sovereign and Lord.” Saints are supposed to be believers! Not followers of the world. But, followers of JESUS CHRIST!

 

Leaders being Servants of GOD

Too many want to be leaders as though they are kings or queens  that are served, Rather than Servants of God they tend to take His place.   To some degree there are those that  foster a cult like environment of  “group think.” What do you mean?   God is mentioned but dependency on them as ” their leader” is encouraged and constantly reinforced.   At times  they will accept the glory that should be given to God!  

 

All too often you now find that some in the church instead follow the latest trends and adopt the ways of the world.  Worldly ways are often  used to promote their agenda and or events… There should be a difference. But from an exterior view this is quite apparent. There is always an exception to the rule.  God gives us much freedom. Pray for discernment.  

 

No need to be envious or jealous! God never meant for worship to be all about  all your issues. Sunday Worship is not the day you  gather to revisit over and over your pain. Yes be thankful you are saved. Yes please do:  “REJOICE IN THE LORD!”  But you do not have  to rant, rave and live in  daily despair week after week.   Where is your joy & peace?  THE HOLY SPIRIT IS A COMFORTER! Worship  should not be overshadowed by your  chronic emotional pain.  Nor did God intend for the worshipping of  the leadership to be encouraged.  You can be set free?  LORD HELP US! 

 

You can be delivered from your pain

The question is do you want to be delivered from it?   Acknowledge it yes.  Grieve and then move forward. Don’t keep rehearsing it. Disengage from the messiness and focus on GOD! All throughout the Word of  God He is reminding His people and the world; who He is. GOD CAN DELIVER YOU!

 

Pray for all in attendance whenever  and wherever you are in worship.  But also pay attention to what is happening around you. Make a point to continually turn your focus upon  the LORD!  Worship should be about praising and thanking God for who He is more than anything else. Worship is time devoted to worshipping GOD. 

 

Spend time with GOD in HIS WORD

ALL you will ever need you can discover in the LORD. “The earth is the Lord’s and everything in it…” Psalm 24. Want what GOD wants for you! When you “STAND” on GOD’S WORD you never have to stand alone. Take time daily to meditate upon the Word of God. Don’t follow the crowd. Be led by the SPIRIT OF GOD! I assure you your pain will diminish as you walk in HIS TRUTH!  Then you will also be better able to discern the things that are not of Him.”  The battles is not ours.  We are to be adorned daily within the Spiritual Armor.  “GOD WILL FIGHT YOUR BATTLES” Take some time and think about it? Who are you really following?

 

We must TRUST GOD! When you know that there is a lot of false teaching going on what do you do?  Learn to “BE STILL & KNOW!” There is much spiritual warfare all  about us. When you know that you have helped those that no one else would help, and they turn on you, what do you do?  Know that God sees everything.  Well, when you know that you have been mistreated and maligned and falsely accused what do you do? YOU PRAISE GOD!!! Know that you are in  very good company because this is what happened to  Christ Jesus! Remember Jesus is coming back for HIS CHURCH!

 

HALLLELLLUJAH ANYHOW!!!

 

When you know that manipulation and deception is present you still must remain faithful to God and His Word! Don’t let anyone pull you so low that you hate them… Don’t settle or compromise your godly principles to get access support by the majority… Again, don’t follow  the crowd. Be led by the Holy Spirit.  It is always good to have a good strong prayer partner. You can touch and agree together when you both  genuinely desire God’s Will and you hold each other  accountable.  For  you will face strong opposition.  You can become stronger for; “iron sharpeneth iron.”

 

Christianity is really not a popularity contest. Nor is  God’s Church just a mere social club.  Many come for the activities.   Make sure you are prayed up before you come to worship and stay prayed up all during the week.  Stay connected to the Lord!  Your body is the Temple where God resides. His Word has marvelous cleansing power. He cleanses us from the inside out. Each and everyone of us  will have to answer to the Lord at some point. So get right with GOD NOW!

REPENT!!!

God knows what you have or have not done. What you do or don’t do and why?  Don’t become bitter. Become BETTER! Learn to better guard your heart.  If you are depressed allow the Lord His place within your life.   He can lift any  of your burdens as you yoke up with Him.  STOP; seeking momentary comfort or counsel in people who make you feel good in sin.  Flee  from  or hold  the gossipers at bay…    For when you leave them know you are their next topic of conversation.  Go forth and stop making excuses  and seek God first before everything else. Truly the Lord is more than able in any situation. You can with the help of the Lord rise above any circumstances. God is more powerful than what any man or woman can ever do to you or for you! 

 

Learn to Walk by FAITH

Exercising your faith will make you peculiar in a good way.  Let God direct you upon the Narrow  Path to  healing. When seeking resources or those to help you be genuine. Loyalty is fleeting for many.  Keep your commitments.  Honor your marriage as well as the marriages of others.   Many within the Church take their directions from unspiritual resources… They do not understand that your allegiance  should first and foremost always   be to the Lord.  God will not lead us to do anything that goes against HIS WORD!

 

Flee from those who make you feel comfortable in sin. You must begin to sincerely  draw closer to God and TRUST HIM for yourself!   This is how you build a “Solid Rock Foundation.” Seek Him above all else and actually put your FAITH into action.  HAVE FAITH IN GOD! This means to trust God and actually embrace His Word and implement it within your daily life.

 

What if Jesus returned today? Are you ready?

Renew your mind with GOD’S WORD!

God will give or can  give you a strong sound mind.  When someone says something  that you know is not true, you know it is not from the Lord.  Trust God and His Word to quicken your soul. HE CAN KEEP you from falling!  “Do not be conformed to this world. But TRANSFORMED by the RENEWING OF YOUR MIND!”  Romans 12   As you embrace and apply GOD’S WORD it will daily renew your mind.   He then manifests and multiplies the Fruit of His Spirit within us!  Your true “security and significance” can only really be found in the LORD.

 

“IF GOD IS FOR US; who can be against us!” HALLLELLLUJAH CHRIST JESUS, THANK YOU LORD! & PRAISE GOD!

 

The Word is often used today to justify lifestyles and wrong behavior that are not sanctioned by God. Minimizing sin and embracing tolerance.  Many have been spiritually crippled. Justified under the guise of unconditional love.  Quite often you give to them and support them and in turn they want more.  Yet, the moment you do not do what they say there goes their unconditional  L—.  This merely  deposits a superficial  idea of love into the minds of many.  It also renders insecurity.   This is what we often see throughout the masses. 

 

KNOW this; A part of HIS LOVE is correction.  GOD CAN MAKE YOU WHOLE!

GOD’S LOVE IS MAGNETIC & POWERFUL!   It draws you yet drains us of the things that are not of HIM!  It cleanses   restores us.  It helps us to flourish despite any trial or tribulation.  It  corrects, directs, refreshes and refuels us.   “GOD IS LOVE” and HIS LOVE lasts throughout eternity.  Sin is anything that separates us from God.  God determines what is sinful. Therefore sin and love do not work  together… Be careful of who or what you join yourself together with. 

 

 

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